Sex, Love and Lies
What is sex? Is it the act of intercourse carried to its fullest extent of a man orgasming inside a woman?
Well, that is definitely sex but it doesn't encompass the full definition of it as sex happens between women and women and men and men. I'm mainly interested in what defines sex between a man and a woman as I'm heterosexual. Does the man pulling out right before he orgasms count as sex? I would think so. Does a man entering a woman once count as sex? I would be inclined to say no, but in that case, how many thrusts does it take to make it sex and not a thrust? But even if you say that one thrust is sex, is 1/2 a thrust sex? Is any penetration of the vagina sex?
Then that brings up hand jobs. Is that sex?
Does cyber sex count as sex? Does phone sex count as sex? Does thinking about sex with a man count as sex?
Where is the line of virginity drawn these days?
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All of this brings up another question. What is cheating?
Is cybering cheating? I'd say yes. Is phone sex cheating? Also a yes. Is thinking about sex with another man cheating? I'd say no.
Can you cheat on a man you aren't in a relationship with? No! Of course not!
Well, anything past just friends with another man would be cheating. But what about a girl? Is kissing a girl cheating? What about getting to second base with her? Third? What about giving each other orgasms? Or oral sex? What defines cheating with a girl on a guy? Having legitimate interest in her? Or does it matter if it is just messing around?
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What is a lie?
Not telling someone the whole truth? Leaving out parts of the truth? Bending the truth?
Are we as humans conditioned to lie?
Should I have to tell my parents that who I call at what hour is none of their business? I'm 21, I don't think they have the right to spy on me and intrude on my life. However, they won't listen to that. So should I just lie? Or should I tell them the honest truth?
At what point do lies become so easy that I lie to people I love and care about without meaning to? At what point do I start lying to myself? Is this healthy? Is there some other better way?
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What is love?
(Baby don't hurt me! Don't hurt me, no more....::giggles::)
Seriously, What is love? Is sex love? No. Otherwise there wouldn't be so many broken homes.
Is love sex? No I love my family and I will love my kids when I have them, but I am not going to have sex with them!
Does love mean I won't lie? No. I love my parents, but I will lie to them.
Does love mean that cheating won't occur? Well, I don't quite think so.
Is love why I cook dinner for a boyfriend? Or my parents when I'm at their house? I'd say yes.
Does love mean that I can treat someone however I see fit? No, that's abusive. That isn't love.
Does love mean that a guy can knock a girl up? No. Not unless they agree it is best, and even then, human judgement is never the best.
Is love marriage? Is marriage love?
Love is the essence of caring for one another, but it doesn't allow for abuse.
Well, that is definitely sex but it doesn't encompass the full definition of it as sex happens between women and women and men and men. I'm mainly interested in what defines sex between a man and a woman as I'm heterosexual. Does the man pulling out right before he orgasms count as sex? I would think so. Does a man entering a woman once count as sex? I would be inclined to say no, but in that case, how many thrusts does it take to make it sex and not a thrust? But even if you say that one thrust is sex, is 1/2 a thrust sex? Is any penetration of the vagina sex?
Then that brings up hand jobs. Is that sex?
Does cyber sex count as sex? Does phone sex count as sex? Does thinking about sex with a man count as sex?
Where is the line of virginity drawn these days?
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All of this brings up another question. What is cheating?
Is cybering cheating? I'd say yes. Is phone sex cheating? Also a yes. Is thinking about sex with another man cheating? I'd say no.
Can you cheat on a man you aren't in a relationship with? No! Of course not!
Well, anything past just friends with another man would be cheating. But what about a girl? Is kissing a girl cheating? What about getting to second base with her? Third? What about giving each other orgasms? Or oral sex? What defines cheating with a girl on a guy? Having legitimate interest in her? Or does it matter if it is just messing around?
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What is a lie?
Not telling someone the whole truth? Leaving out parts of the truth? Bending the truth?
Are we as humans conditioned to lie?
Should I have to tell my parents that who I call at what hour is none of their business? I'm 21, I don't think they have the right to spy on me and intrude on my life. However, they won't listen to that. So should I just lie? Or should I tell them the honest truth?
At what point do lies become so easy that I lie to people I love and care about without meaning to? At what point do I start lying to myself? Is this healthy? Is there some other better way?
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What is love?
(Baby don't hurt me! Don't hurt me, no more....::giggles::)
Seriously, What is love? Is sex love? No. Otherwise there wouldn't be so many broken homes.
Is love sex? No I love my family and I will love my kids when I have them, but I am not going to have sex with them!
Does love mean I won't lie? No. I love my parents, but I will lie to them.
Does love mean that cheating won't occur? Well, I don't quite think so.
Is love why I cook dinner for a boyfriend? Or my parents when I'm at their house? I'd say yes.
Does love mean that I can treat someone however I see fit? No, that's abusive. That isn't love.
Does love mean that a guy can knock a girl up? No. Not unless they agree it is best, and even then, human judgement is never the best.
Is love marriage? Is marriage love?
Love is the essence of caring for one another, but it doesn't allow for abuse.
posted by Red at 9:25 PM
3 Comments:
Hi, I came up with a definition of love many years ago that's been pretty useful. Helped me find my soulmate, at least. Details here:
http://www.softgreenglow.com/wp/?p=1953
Oh yeah, and you'll notice that my definition has nothing to do with sex. Love is not sex and sex is not love. When both people realize this, it does a lot to eliminate petty jealousy from the relationship, in my experience.
Good luck! Figuring this stuff out for yourself can be fun!
Don't know if you're a Christian, but probably the best definition is in the gospel of John, chapter 15, verse 13 (and dovetails quite nicely with david's post, BTW):
"Greater love has no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends."
True love means someone is willing to die in order that you may live.
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